February 3, 2014 issue of TIME.
The term is frequently popping up in scientific peer-reviewed journals and check-out aisle magazines. Why is the concept of mindfulness gaining such momentum? Because, in a time when anxiety and depression rates are climbing, mindfulness works to bring it back, slow it down, and soak it up. Practicing mindfulness gracefully connects us to the world around us, and within us.
Mindfulness has earned a powerful reputation for being a direct pathway to internal peace and awareness. These qualities need to be nurtured and I believe that in modern western society, the cultivation of mindfulness was neglected, and now, people are suffering for it. Thankfully, mindfulness is having its moment in the spotlight; even forward-thinking psychiatrists are recommending mindfulness practice before prescribing brain altering chemically derived drugs, which tend to come with a bevy of unpleasant side effects. Mindfulness, especially when practiced alongside meditation, will also alter your brain chemistry AND will get one in touch with their authentic self & spirit, rather than numbing it. The only side effects of mindfulness are insight, perspective and lingering curiosity.
What is mindfulness? Quite simply, it’s the practice of being present, here & now. It’s actively observing one’s inner experience in a way that is fully aware but non-judgemental. Why do this? Because past/present focused thinking ultimately does us no good in the present tense. In fact, it can hinder us, repress us, and it often creates anxiety states while disconnecting us from the world. When you really look at the present, really ARE in the present, things are quite simple! Try it. What are you doing right now? Clear the mind-junk, let it go. Right now, in this moment, reality is likely quite simple. I challenge you to try this exercise at any moment. To simply “bring it back.”
Allow me to illustrate three common scenarios where mindfulness can be employed.
~ You’re out with a friend for drinks. As she vents about her day you get lost in your own thoughts about your own day, your plans tomorrow, that email that you haven’t replied to, etc. And all in rapid succession! Yes, you are physically present and may even be exhibiting the physical cues of a good listener – eye contact and body facing the speaker – but you are not mentally present. When it comes time for you to speak, to show your friend some support, you have absolutely no idea what she said. I have been guilty of this (!), and I’m guessing that I’m not alone.
What to do: being mindful in this social situation would involve catching yourself early on as your mind begins to drift, and returning your attention to your friend. Maybe you even apologetically tell her that your mind has wandered and to “please repeat that last bit” (this is honest and respectful). Catching yourself when your thoughts lead you astray, and bringing your attention back to the conversation – without judging yourself! – is mindfulness in practice.
~ You’re suffering a succession of bad days. Maybe you’re even depressed. Your mind replays old “stories”, ruminating over them and projecting from them. This is a slippery slope, folks. Imagination is a wonderful, wonderful tool but sometimes it can lead us astray.
What to do: being mindful in this situation would involve stepping back and stopping yourself in your cognitive-tracks, and objectively questioning your story. Is it purely perception, and not founded in fact? Has said situation even happened yet? Is there a place within you that needs more attention and introspection so that you can work through, heal, and move past these self-limiting thoughts? Asking yourself these questions is mindfulness because you are actively taming the wild horse that is your mind, objectively and without judgement. Watching your thoughts, and noticing when they are hurtful rather than helpful, is being mindful.
~ You’re eating dinner in front of the TV. Before you know it, the meal that provides our bodies with the vitality to live, love, and create has vanished. This is eating mindlessly, and when we eat quickly and distractedly, it affects digestion which ultimately effects nutrient absorption and our state of health. We have to eat anyway, so why not make it a pleasurable, sensual, nourishing experience!
What to do: being mindful when eating involves putting away distractions (TV, cell phone, reading material) and taking in the meal with all of your senses. Mindful eating might involve thoroughly chewing food and tasting it, pausing and briefly closing eyes between mouthfuls, and being grateful for the nutrients the meal is providing your body right in this moment. Being mindful at mealtime is being present with the food, and appreciative of the life it gives you.
This is my take on mindfulness, and like anything, it evolves. From reading this, I hope you’ve learned something that you can apply to your daily life, and mindfully so. 🙂
Naturally yours.
Sarah Hawkins, R.H.N.
Hawkins Holistic 